Anxiety

Take Time to Focus on YOU

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It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary. – Mandy Hale

Many of us grow up being taught to be selfless. To give of yourself to others and to put their needs ahead of your own. I agree with this for the most part and know from experience that helping others can bring you real happiness, distract you from your own problems, and help put your problems them into perspective when you see that, really, everyone has struggles of some kind or another and we need to help each other through them.

However, (yes, here comes the “but”) when you are dealing with a mental illness you need to IGNORE some of this. Telling yourself and hearing that you need to just start thinking about others and realize that “there’s always someone who has it worse”? Isn’t going to help. If you’re depressed or anxious you’re probably overwhelmed enough as it is. You don’t need added pressure. It’s okay to focus on yourself. You’re not going to be any help to anyone else if you can’t take care of yourself first. So don’t try and don’t feel bad about it. Realize that you’re taking time to learn to be easier on yourself, to take care of yourself and to make YOU happy so that, later, you can focus on and help your family, friends, ect, better than you’re able to right now.

You need to be able to love and care for yourself in order to love and take care of anyone else properly. This doesn’t mean cutting off all human ties and relationships, but it means letting THEM help YOU for a change. Allow yourself to take the time to do things that you enjoy and find relaxing. To do the things you know you need to in order to get through this. In the long run it will benefit both you and those who you are close to.

I’m discovering that happiness is contagious. I had to stop worrying so much about what everyone else was thinking of me. I had to stop stressing about how I thought I was making them unhappy. Then, when I accepted that was just how things were right now and learned that they didn’t love me any less for it? When I stopped trying to hide how I was feeling in an attempt keep people from leaving me? I realized that THEY were happier because I was happier. Overall it means less stress for everyone and allows me to relax and be okay with taking as much time as I need to care for me! (:

Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know.

Well now they know.

Let it go!

– Frozen

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Essential Oils for Anxiety and Depression

medium_8543552581I am a big fan of essential oils. The obvious reason being that they smell AMAZING. Seriously. The second reason being that I feel they have been helpful for my depression, anxiety, and headaches. They’re easy and enjoyable to use, and have numerous benefits.

Here are some EOs that are good for anxiety, depression, sleep, ect and which ones I have been using.

(I will be listing single essential oils as well as blends from the doTERRA and Young Living  brands)

Anxiety

  • Frankincense
  • Harmony **
  • Joy **
  • Lavender
  • Orange
  • Serenity *
  • Lemon
  • Elevation *
  • Balance *
  • Stress Away **

Depression

  • Balance*
  • Citrus Bliss*
  • Elevation *
  • Lemon
  • Joy**
  • Harmony**
  • Frankincense
  • Lavender
  • Bergamot
  • Ylang Ylang

Headaches/Migraines

  • PastTense*
  • Peppermint
  • Deep Blue*
  • Deep Relief**
  • Lavender
  • Rosemary
  • Tranquil**
  • Valor**

Insomnia

  • Dream Catcher**
  • Lavender
  • Orange
  • Serenity*
  • Roman Chamomile
  • Tranquil**
  • Peace and Calming**

That’s a lot. I know. I spent hours trying to decide which essential oils I wanted to try, because, lets face it, these aren’t always cheap. Here are some tips for narrowing it down though…

  1. SAMPLES! Find an essential oil representative in your town and ask for samples. I got a whole bunch of them and was able to try them out and see what I liked.
  2. If you don’t like how it smells it’s probably not for you. Apparently the ones you like the most are the best suited for you.
  3. Pick favorites! You’ll notice, for example, that Lavender is listed in all four categories. Pick multi-purpose oils that cover several of your needs.
  4. Do your research. Google, ask questions, try them out! It can be a process of elimination.

Here is an example of my essential oils routine…

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In the morning I apply Balance* and Elevation* to the bottom of my feet. This is one of the quickest ways for them to enter your bloodstream. These EOs help keep my moods level throughout the day.

During the day I diffuse Orange EO in my house to help fight any anxious thoughts that like to make themselves present (and it smells REALLY good! My boyfriend thinks it smells like tea. No idea where that came from but at least he likes it haha).

If I have a particularly bad headache I will diffuse Peppermint and apply Deep Blue* to my temples and neck.

At night I usually take a bath with a few drops of Lavender oil and then put a few drops of Serenity* on my pillowcase before going to bed.

So that’s how I do it and I have noticed a difference (and, possibly more importantly, so has my family). Let me know if you’ve tried essential oils! (:

* doTERA blend **Young Living blend
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